With the number of mobile apps and contemporary ways to date, dating has now become more popular than ever, and more and more people are going on several dates a month or even a week. The great thing about them? Nice meals, good conversation (if you’re lucky) and the hope of going on the second date and meeting the man/woman of your dreams? Good or bad dates, we fail to realise we’re picking up a lot of great skills that could help in your job search, career networking and self-confidence.
Let’s think about the very nature of date. A couple of singles congregate in a bar or café and spend only around 30 minutes with each other, before deciding if they’d like to go on to date two. Sounds familiar, right?
And what’s more interesting is how someone can make a good/bad impression in a matter of minutes.
You may find the person sitting opposite you extremely attractive, but it only takes a few seconds to mumble your words, potentially say the wrong thing and hey presto the object of your desire has crossed you off their list!
Similarly, the first few minutes of a job interview also works in the same way. Before you’ve even sat down, you would have said: ‘Hello’ and shook the hand of your interviewer. In that time they’ve made an impression based on your personal appearance, tone of voice and body language.
And just like on a date when you’re asked what you do and where you’re from an interviewer may begin by asking you to talk them through your CV and your knowledge of the company.
With speed dating you’re incredibly aware of the limited time you have with someone, so learning to strengthen your confidence skills and how to sell yourself, will come in handy when trying to impress an employer who may have to interview several candidates that day.
Let’s not forget how our body language also gives us away; playing with your hair may be flirty, but in an interview can come across as nervous. No direct eye contact suggests lack of interest and talking over someone – be it your date or potential employer – shows an inability to listen.
So remember, just like your date is trying to figure out whether they want to see you again, ultimately the interviewer is trying to find out why they should hire you. All the questions they ask, no matter how they dress them up, will point to this answer.
Whether speed dating works for you or not, take note of how you behave in those situations and take all the good points with you to your interview – as the saying goes, practice makes perfect. Will you make it to the second stage?
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