“A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.” Winston Churchill
If you’re used to being a Debbie downer it isn’t exactly easy to get up one day and decide to be positive. Being positive is about so much more than smiling and retweeting positive quotes on Twitter, it’s a mind-set, and in order to live a life full of positivity you pretty much need to reprogram your state of mine! Here are some of the ways I managed to remain positive during my lowest times, hopefully it helps someone:
Get rid of the negative people
You know those people who instead of encouraging you to reach your full potential are constantly demotivating you by saying things like:
“I don’t think you can do it”.
“Nah you can’t do that”.
They are the worst people to have around you, constantly filing your mind with doubtful thoughts. If they’re going to be doubtful towards your goals and dreams then there is no purpose for them in your life.
Do something that triggers your inner peace
Find something that brings you inner peace. Religious people pray, whilst others meditate or do Yoga. If you can’t think of anything at the moment, start spending time on things you’re passionate about. So if you’re a writer why not start up a blog or if you like dancing why not join a dance class.
Focus on people that make you smile
If you notice that certain people in your life are only bringing you grief and stress, then cut them out of your life. I am not saying go on Twitter and start announcing to your followers that you are cutting people off, there is no need to announce it to the world. Avoid being in the presence of people who add no positive value to your life and spend more time with those who make you smile and laugh till your belly hurts.
Don’t stress out over temporary situations
No point on dwelling on people and situations that make you upset. Okay that boy broke your heart or that friend portrayed you, but guess what it’s time to let go. Because I guarantee whilst your there stressing about them, they are living their life stress free with not a worry in the world. Learn to focus your energy on the people that make you happy, that way you feed off their good vibes and positive aura’s.
Listen to music with a positive message
Listening to Gospel music really makes me feel positive and optimistic about my day. So whatever genre of music makes you think positive and happy thoughts is the type of music you need to be listening to regularly. When I listen to Kirk Franklin smile I actually remember all the things that I have to be thankful for and guess what… I end up smiling. Music has such an immense power over our thoughts, so think twice before you listen to the Adele album after you are going through that rough break up!
Plaster positive quotes around your room
Apart from learning not to fall in love with a married man I actually learned a lot by watching Becoming Mary Jane. I loved how every episode started with a quote and I also loved how she posted positive quotes all around her bathroom, so I can’t take credit for this idea, it was all Mary Jane’s doing. Try writing out some positive quotes and stick them around your room, make a promise to yourself that you will read a quote at least once a week. Hopefully when you put meaning to the quote and attempt to apply it to your everyday life you should start to feel just a little bit more optimistic about your day.
Remember the transition from negative to positive thinking won’t happen overnight.
You HAVE to reprogram your way of thinking, it will take a bit of time but it will be worth it in the end!
Words: Lateefah-Jean Baptiste
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